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     Kommentar till en text av NANCY BACKUS
Ärende: Re: just stuff
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Hiya Nancy!
-> 
->  HN> So far it's been good!! 
->  HN> Sunny and cold...but good!
->  
-> We've had sun and snow... and cold... but still fine...
-> 
Same here...without the snow.

->  ->  -> I am so thankful that when our kid moved back in, it was only
for
->  ->  -> a roof over his head... he knew better than to expect us to wait
->  ->  -> on him hand and foot or to let him sponge off us...  And all too
->  ->  -> soon, he was off on his own again...  Now that he has finished
->  ->  -> building his own place, he likely won't need to move back 
again...
->  ->  -> Of course, he's always been pretty independent, which we've
->  ->  -> encouraged...  :)
->  ->  HN> It is very different when there is an
->  ->  HN> understanding between the kid coming home
->  ->  HN> for a "short time" and a kid coming "home"...
->  -> True... even when the "short time" is indefinite, and might
->  -> stretch to a year or two...  ;)
->  ->
->  HN> I don't think most folks keep it quite that
->  HN> "open ended", but as a "stop gap", "helping
->  HN> out" and "keeping their head above water"
->  HN> system. Most (I think) have raised their
->  HN> kids...and don't want to have to do it again.
-> 
-> If I thought it would entail going back to raising the kid
-> I wouldn't be too open-ended either, to be honest.  But as
-> long as he's home as a functioning adult, I don't really
-> worry too much how long it lasts.
->
As long as they're not sitting on the 
couch all day playing Xbox and eating
cheetos!
 
->  HN> Sadly at Anne's school many children are
->  HN> living with grandparents because the
->  HN> parents themselves are deadbeats and idiots.
->  
-> That is indeed sad.  I have a friend who has been raising most
-> of her grandchildren, most of the time, because her kids aren't
-> doing what they should be.  One daughter had the gall to tell
-> her that she was having the kids FOR her mom to raise...  At the
-> moment, she is living with that daughter, and all the kids...
->
The kids aren't what they're supposed
to be because of the upbringing of 
their parents...I wonder if they will
do any better with the grand kids??
 
->  ->  HN> We'd love to offer
->  ->  HN> Amanda a roof and room for a time
->  ->  HN> if she could find a job locally
->  ->  HN> or was here looking for one. But
->  ->  HN> we and she knows that it would be
->  ->  HN> temporary. She's always been a
->  ->  HN> pretty good independent person and
->  ->  HN> I know she would not want to come
->  ->  HN> home for more than a visit. 
->  -> And there's a big difference between coming home as a fully
->  -> functional adult, taking on a share of the responsibility,
->  -> and the ones that come home to freeload and expect to be a
->  -> child waited on hand and foot...
->  ->
->  HN> A WAY big difference!!
-> 
-> For sure.
->  
->  ->  ->  HN> She'll be "free" as of Thursday I think..but
->  ->  ->  HN> I'm also thinking she's going to "volunteer"
->  ->  ->  HN> some time back in her old office for a week
->  ->  ->  HN> or so.
->  ->  -> So as to really finish tying up the loose ends, I expect...?
->  ->  -> Independence and a sense of responsibility... you did indeed
->  ->  -> raise her right...
->  ->  HN> She does pretty well for herself, I 
->  ->  HN> am confident she'll find something,
->  ->  HN> not sure what, but something!
->  -> Even if it takes a while...  :)   She should be fine.
->  ->
->  HN> Yep, she'll find something and she's
->  HN> been very good about saving this year
->  HN> so she does have a bit of a bankroll
->  HN> to help with survival.
-> 
-> That's good.   BTW, does that boyfriend still figure in her plans,
-> or did that go by the wayside in the meantime...?
->
He's still there....sig
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